“Learning to trust is one of life’s most difficult lessons. That’s because trust is not a verb; it’s a noun. Trust is a state of mind and being. If you are serious about learning to trust, you need TNT: Tenacity, Nerve, and Time. But what if the real problem is not that we can’t trust other people; it’s that we can’t trust ourselves?”

In this compelling volume, filled with illuminating and heartrendingly powerful stories of broken trust, betrayal, and triumph, Iyanla demonstrates why the four essential trusts—Trust in Self, Trust in God, Trust in Others, and Trust in Life—are like oxygen: without them, none of us can survive.


Trust In Self

Trust yourself because you are worthy of your own time, energy, attention, and love. Trust yourself because when the rubber meets the road, when all else fails, when everyone else has fallen by the wayside, you will know that you have always been and will always be there for you.

Trust In God

Trust in God because it is your sole purpose for being on the planet. Trust in God because you are a human being. Trust in God because when you cannot do it—whatever it is—for yourself, God can do it through you and for you.

Trust In Others

Trust in others because it is the only way to fine-tune your instincts, deepen your ability to trust yourself, and learn the depth of your capacity to love and forgive. Even when your interactions and relationships are difficult, challenging, and uncomfortable, trust that you are growing.

Trust In Life

Trust the process because life is on your side. Life wants to encourage you, inspire you, and motivate you, moment by moment, and that can happen only when you trust that life knows exactly what and exactly when you need.

Mastering these four essential trusts requires both a process and a practice. Life gives you the process through your experiences; people provide you the opportunity to practice. Whether you are faced with the specter of an unfaithful spouse, a manipulative colleague, a rebellious child, or a corrupt institution, Iyanla not only explores what trust really is, but she reveals why some of life’s most shocking trust violations offer us the most profound opportunities for personal growth and healing.